Sexology
Specialist sexologist. Sexuality is the last subject people ask for help with and the first thing that breaks when stress, anxiety, trauma or a tired relationship enter their lives. A sexology consultation is where the question gets asked out loud and receives an adult answer, without judgement and without a joke.
Most sexual difficulties do not begin in the body. They begin in a nervous system that can no longer come down from alert, in a relationship where people have stopped talking, or in a shame learned in childhood. The body only translates what was never said.
Women, men and couples come to me. Some after years of looking for a medical cause. Others with a good relationship, in which intimacy faded without a single argument. All of these are reason enough.
In short
- Specialist sexologist
- Individual and couple consultations
- Absolute confidentiality
- No judgement, no pressure, no taboos
How the work is done, so it does not stay at the level of advice
Two planes, at the same time
What is happening in your relationship and in your story, and what is happening in the regulation of your nervous system. Desire needs a brain that feels safe; without that, no technique holds.
Medical causes first
Pain, bleeding, sudden changes in libido or in erection: these are checked by a doctor before any psychological interpretation. Nothing is assumed.
Confidentiality, no exceptions
Nothing is recorded in files anyone else can access, and nothing is discussed with your partner without your consent. When you come as a couple, we agree from the start what may be said.
Four steps, in this order
The first consultation
We put the questions on the table and first rule out the causes that need a doctor. Nothing is assumed.
The map of intimacy
What changed, since when, in what context, and what part the relationship plays in what is happening now.
Work on two planes
Sex therapy proper and nervous-system regulation, so that desire has somewhere to appear.
The couple, where appropriate
Many difficulties resolve far faster when both partners come. It is not required, but it helps.
What people believe and what actually happens
| The belief | What is actually true |
|---|---|
| "If I have no desire left, it is over." | Desire is a function that depends on context and on safety. It can be reactivated. |
| "Pain is normal, it will pass." | Pain is a symptom and it gets investigated, medically first. It is not something to endure. |
| "It is a problem of attraction." | Most often it is the distance that settled in outside the bedroom: tiredness, routine, things left unsaid. |
| "I have to come with my partner." | Not necessarily. It helps and it speeds things up, but the work goes very well individually too. |
| "I must be the only one with this question." | It is much the same five questions, asked by hundreds of people who believed exactly that. |
Five beliefs people bring to the first consultation.
The table scrolls sideways.
The reasons people come to this field with
Nothing you are about to ask is strange. I have heard that question before you.
Ask in writing first,
if that is easier
This site's assistant is trained on exactly the area of intimacy: desire, couples, the body, shame, sexuality. It answers informatively, without judgement, and tells you clearly when a real consultation is needed.
In the press and on air
The subjects I explain publicly, in national publications and in podcasts.
Not sure this is the right field for you?
A first conversation clears up exactly that. You tell me what is happening, I tell you honestly which field the work belongs to and whether someone else is needed.